Photo: Annet Kizza) Facebook
A Ugandan woman based in Norway, Annet Kizza, has stirred debate online after her blunt remarks on money and relationships challenged common attitudes among Ugandan couples.
Kizza’s comments came in response to advice from a female financial advisor urging women not to give men money, warning that it could be used to support other relationships.
But Kizza strongly disagreed, arguing that such thinking reflects deeper issues of trust rather than financial wisdom.
“You share your saliva with him, but not your money?” she posed, questioning what she sees as a contradiction in many relationships.
She insisted that marriage is built on sharing in all aspects, including finances. Drawing from her own life, Kizza recounted how she and her partner during university survived on very little but still supported each other.
“If one of us had money for only one meal, we walked hand in hand, bought that one meal and shared it. Sometimes it was his money, sometimes mine. It didn’t matter,” she said.
After university, she found herself in a relationship where she was the sole provider while her partner searched for a job. She maintained that financial support did not reduce her respect for him.
“I was the one spending on us. That didn’t diminish my respect for him… we shared everything. That’s what love does; it shares,” she explained.
Kizza’s strongest example came from her marriage to her Norwegian ex-husband, whom she credited for supporting her during a major transition in her life.
After relocating to Norway, she had to restart her education and career, leaving her financially dependent for a period.
“He paid for everything. House. Car. Food. My clothes… the lot. I finished school, started working, and as my income grew, I took over some of the bills,” she said.
Even after their divorce, Kizza noted that both continue to support their children financially, describing it as a shared responsibility.
“We are still raising the humans we made together. So we both contribute, even now,” she added.
She criticised what she described as a growing mindset where women avoid contributing financially in relationships, warning that it creates imbalance.
“This business of ‘his money is ours but mine is mine’ reduces our sons to ATMs and our daughters to visitors in their own homes,” she said.
Her remarks have drawn mixed reactions online. Some users agreed with her position, saying modern relationships require shared responsibility, especially in tough economic times.
Others defended the cautious approach, pointing to cases where women have been financially exploited by partners.
Kizza, however, dismissed the fear that contributing money would lead to betrayal, arguing that such behaviour is tied to character, not finances.
“If a man will marry another woman, he will do so with or without your money. The issue is not the money. The issue is the man,” she stated.
She urged women to focus on choosing partners wisely rather than withholding support out of fear.
“You trust a man with your life, your love, your body… but you can’t buy tomatoes in the house because he will take them to another woman? Come on ladies,” she added.
Kizza also shared how her views shape how she is raising her children.
She said she encourages her sons to take responsibility and provide, especially in the early stages of dating, while also teaching them to avoid one-sided relationships.
At the same time, she is raising her daughter to be financially independent.
“I tell my daughter to make her money so she can stand on her own, with or without a man,” she said.